There are a plethora of articles on what an empath is, how they can get through the day, career paths, etc. However, nothing prepares you for when you find yourself working with an empath. From experience, I can spot someone’s bullshit a mile away. I know who to stay away from, I know who’s an emotional vampire, and I know who to be around so that I can be as happy as they are — albeit for a few moments. Empaths are ubiquitous. You may not notice them, but they are there, and they’re probably staying far away from you if you’re having a bad day. I’m going to share with you a few rules and tips on how to handle business with an empath.
Working With Empaths
1. Stop the bullshit – plain and simple.
The last thing an empath needs during their workday is to figure out if you’re being serious or facetious. It’s hard to make plans for team meetings or any other event if the rest of the team isn’t serious or honest.
2. If you’re having a bad day – stay away.
Listen, we all have them. We got up on the wrong side of the bed, we put our left shoe on first, and we ran out of gas a block before our work building. We’ve all been there, but check that attitude at the door. Your work environment doesn’t need multiple people having a nasty attitude.
3. If you’re thinking it – the empath knows it.
So here’s a little secret. Empaths are intuitive — no not mind readers, but intuitive. They can sense right away what you’re going to say. Not trying to spook you, but it’s the truth. So don’t beat around the bush, just say what you’re going to say and move on.
4. They’re mostly extroverts – but you’re killing the mood.
Empaths are fun to be around. They’re honest, they’re blunt, and they’re mostly extroverts. They’re usually the planners or Master of Ceremony. They’re usually the first to hit the dancefloor or make a toast. But one foul mood in their vicinity can bring them back into their shell, and they won’t come out again.
5. They’re relentless – but also forgiving.
Empaths can sometimes have a hard time discerning their emotions from others. And, let’s face it, there are plenty of emotional vampires out there. A foul mood can ruin the workplace for everyone, but empaths are forgiving.
6. They’re avoiding you on purpose.
Yes, they are forgiving, but that means that they will avoid you. It’s hard for them to carry on with their day while they’re emotionally vested with you. Realistically, they don’t even owe you an explanation. See advice number one.
All of this doesn’t mean that you can’t be work buddies, it just means for you to be conscientious of your own emotions before approaching others. It goes back to the adage, “the world doesn’t revolve around you.” As much as you want others to accommodate you and your feelings, you should do the same for others. It can be highly rewarding working alongside an empath, but it can also be detrimental to the empath. So think wisely how you approach them and your day should go smoothly.